No woman owes me sex.

It would be an oversimplification to say that my marriage ended a year ago because of a lack of sex, but I was very unhappy with the lack of sex. I’m a 50 something man, and I want to have an active sex life.

I’m dating now, and early in the dating process, I tell my date that I am interested in having a sexual relationship. I don’t expect to go to bed on the first date. I want to spend some time getting to know her, but I expect that the “getting to know each other” part is measured in weeks, not months or years. If she’s not interested in progressing to a sexual relationship, then we won’t continue dating.

I think that it is possible to have a grown-up conversation about sex with someone whom I’m dating without it becoming a list of demands. Sex is not the only thing I’m looking for in a relationship, but it is one thing.