The purity test expressed by this rapper I’ve never heard of truely is reprehensible behaviour. When my daughter was about 12, I wanted her to have two messages.

1. You are a sovereign human being. Who you have physical contact with is your choice and not something that should ever be imposed on you.
2. You should wait until you are 18 to have sex with a boy. Physical intimacy has an enormous emotional component and children are not equipped to deal with it. I’m not going to dictate how you express intimacy with others, but you don’t need to be in a raging hurry to get there.

She was 17 and a half the first time she had sex and she did it in her bedroom in my house. She told me about it the next day. I figured, close enough.